Surgery date is set!

Had my Pre op appt today and i found out a few things out. My surgery will be on Jan 12th and she will not take my ovary out. First she wants to try to menopause me for 3 months to see if in deed its totally my ovary causing pain with ovulation. After the 3 month time frame, we will go from there and re evaluate whats going on. Im going to get a shot sometime next week to start the menopause. Im worried about that and im glad its temporary. I was suppose to have it done today but after my long appointment and another long appointment with the apu place ( where i report for surgery) i forgot. Having 3 crazy kids can do that. Well the older ones were awesome, Juli on the other hand, she needs a cage lmao.
My pap came back abnormal which blew me away and sent me into tears. How much more could go wrong? Ive never had a bad pap. So now she will also be taking a biopsy of my cervix. Im so scared but so ready to just get it over with so i can get the results back. She will also be running a camera in my stomach to see what she can possibly find that may be causing my pain. If she sees something, then in March i will go back under.
Im holding it together i think pretty well. I wish my mom was here to help us!

My daycare is fully done, minus some art supplies that i need to get. Dont mind the clothes stacked by my art center. They are for Jess, i need to mail them and im slacking big time. Here are some pics of it and from Christmas. I cant arrange the pics for some reason so they showed up all on top!

Wow, where the heck have i been? Engulfed in a lot of stuff, that’s where.
We had a nice Christmas and the kids made out. I made our dinner which was wonderful as always, and hubby cleaned up while i put the Christmas stuff away. How awesome is that?

There has been a lot going on here, hence why i haven’t updated in a month and been MIA.
I went for my ultrasound on my stomach last week and I’m pretty sure i know what the pain is, my right ovary.
On Tue i go back to the Dr for my pre- op and im sure i will learn more. I will be happy when all this is done and the stress & pain is gone. My blood pressure is up, no surprise since there is so much going on around here, but its not good for my kidneys, I’m not sure if this is my disease progressing or just stress. I will find out more when we move and i can finally follow up with a nephrologist! It’s been 4 years since I have been and I’m due. My health right now is such a concern to me. Not knowing what is going on is the worst and it has brought me really down. My kidney disease is not curable, its called polycystic kidney disease. I was diagnosed when I was 19. Its not too worrisome for me, since I know what to expect, it’s the unexpected with the precancerous cells in the past and future biopsies that have me on edge.

Avery is dealing with so much right now; his ODD is just kicking his butt. We went from just fits, to now small amounts of aggression. This has started from around the time when we learned his dad would be deploying, now home, getting the shit chocked out of him by some kid 3x'x his size and now he is dealing with the fact of our up coming move. For a child, this is a lot to deal with, especially in a short amount of time, but normal for a military kid. The school, who is suppose to be there and understand the military child, and help might i add, is trying to just get rid of him. Avery has some aggression issues that are not severe. He will throw a chair when he is overly stresses, cant get his words out or feels no one is listening to him. Since the older kid choked him a few weeks back, he is now cornering kids and basically putting his hands on other students. This of course is unacceptable, but looking at it from the eyes of Avery, i wonder, why is he doing it. Has he tried to use his words and no one is listening, keeps getting picked on and finally just snaps? Maybe its just that he is labeled a troubled kid and when something goes wrong, he is the first one they call out instead of figuring out what really happened. Right now Avery is on the verge of expulsion. I have tried since he was in Kgarden to get help, I get none, The first year, their psychiatrist would stick him in a sound proof box for 10 -15 min as "punishment". As a parent, i was pissed, But since he knew what he was doing, i trusted him. Avery got worse that year. Not sure if that had anything to do with it. 1st grade he had a teacher who totally gave up on him. What teacher in their right mind doesn’t communicate with a parent to let them know their child is struggling in reading and not at grade level, yet passes them and says nothing to the school? Luckily the reading group caught his level and is now giving him help since his teacher last year refused to get him help. She expected perfect non talking students. She was monotone and bland. How sad. Over the summer, i gave up on the school and went on my own to get Avery help. It was sorta working, but getting an appointment with the child psychologist on island is impossible. There are 2 for the whole island! Hubby was called in to the school and basically told they want to expel Avery. We haven’t been told ever, that he has yet this year been in the vice principals office. WTF? How about some communication. Get this, to get a hold of my husband (since he just changed units) They call a central office, to get his work number, in the process they tell them our personal business. So my husband has some low rank joe shmoe telling him " hey gunny, call your sons school, they are having behavior issues with him. Needles to say my husband was pisssed. Everybody knows us here. My husband made a good name for his self here. I can walk in to the medical clinic and they hear Our last name and ask me if I’m Gunny's wife lmao. My husband told the vice principal off and let him know about the privacy act info he just put out there to someone who doesn’t need to know! Back to Avery. I’m not sure what is going to happen yet. The holidays have happened and they are on break. If he is expelled from school. I’m not sure what we will do. They are only allowed to go to certain schools out here based on what base we live on. The next closes base and school is 30 min away. That will be just crazy to do with him just because the school won’t help him. They are suppose to be more sensitive to the emotions these military kids go through and be there to help and offer support. This school must have missed this memo.

On a better note, we got our orders. We fly in May. In March we will get our exact date and things im sure will move a lot faster then. We are going to Ft Lee Va. While im excited to move, my heart is still a small bit broken. I was still hoping we would get the chance to go back to California. Hubby says he will put in for it our next station, but then he also talks about coming back over here. Im really torn.

I went on a walk this morning with Juli, we walked the big hill bertha. I was just taking in the sites of Okinawa. I’m going to miss the calmness of this place. I saw 4 kids out on the road, one was pushing a 2 yr old or so In a stroller and another child, maybe 5 was walking with another baby, who looked to be around 2. No adult around. There is no fear here of abduction or speeding cars ect. We can walk through a store and the kids can go into a different isle or wandering a mall and the kids trail behind us, we know they are safe.

Since all the Christmas stuff is down, I was able to fully set up my daycare. I will get pics up on another day. Im really excited to get opened and begin doing what I love.

I have a few friends that have been there for me who i love dearly and ther support means the world to me. Thank you for all the prayers!